Allowing the Water to Flow: Releasing Emotions after a Breaking Point
By Dr. Theresa Bullard
When life presents you with a challenge, how do you respond?
For even the most grounded individual, a sudden change can bring about confusion, anger and even sadness.
In our journey through the 7 Stages of the Alchemical Process of Transformation, we described this breaking point or break down as the first stage of Calcination. Immediately following a breaking point is a period of emotional turmoil as one tries to process what happened. This stage is known as Dissolution.
Dissolution is when emotions and sub-conscious fears rise up after the burning or shake up from Calcination. This stage is governed by the element of water, which represent emotions and the release that follows a challenge in one’s life.
Allowing the Water to Flow
Even though this stage doesn’t sound too pleasant to many people, it is part of the natural process that we all go through. The best way to move through this stage, rather than getting stuck in it, is to not push the emotions down or try to ignore and suppress them when they come up, but rather to find a constructive outlet for them.
Here are some tips for how to constructively let the emotions pass more smoothly so that you can move through this stage faster:
-If it is a minor incident, you can start by going for a brisk 15-minute walk to transform the emotional energy into physical energy and diffuse it.
-If it is a major incident that really triggers a core unresolved issue, or fear, then the best thing to do is to give yourself some alone time to check-in with yourself, introspect, and be present to what is trying to rise up from the subconscious.
-One useful tool is to write in a journal. Describe the situation that triggered the emotions giving voice to what emotions are coming up and how you are feeling.
Once you have gotten through all the details about what happened and how you feel, ask yourself some questions and journal the answers.
-The most important question is “What do I want to do about it?”
-The next important question is “In my heart of hearts, what result do I want to experience?
-What would be the ideal outcome?”
-Lastly, “What actions can I take that will get me the desired outcome?”
In asking these questions and journaling the answers, you will likely find that in doing this, your own innate wisdom from deep within rises up to guide your next moves.
-You might find that dreams may become more vivid during this stage (albeit sometimes disturbing). It can be very helpful to pay attention to those dreams and what their symbolic meaning and archetypal messages are trying to convey to you.
Again, write them down in a journal to help you process them more consciously. And as you do, ask for each part of the dream, “What might that have represented symbolically?” or “What part of me does that symbol, person, or experience reflect to me?” The sub-conscious speaks in images and symbols that are not to be taken literally, and that are always representing some deeper aspect of your own psyche, so interpret your dreams with this in mind.
-Finally, as mentioned before, this stage is governed by the element of water. So using the element of water to help you sooth your soul and cleanse your mind is a great idea. This could mean:
-Going to the beach and listening to the surf of the waves, or going out to the mountain stream or river and listening to the flow of the water downstream;
-Taking a long relaxing bath or shower while contemplating what’s coming up for you;
-Meditating using a guided imagery such as our Quantum Insight album that uses the imagery of a Quiet Pond of water and the Flame of higher insight coming together.
-Or, our upcoming new album called “Into the Gap” will also take you through a great process for relaxing the body, emptying the mind, and sinking deep into the ocean to connect with the Quantum Gap. In the Gap, you can hit the reset button on almost any challenge, and open up the space for all the potential energy of the Quantum Realm to become accessible to you.
Stay tuned, next week we will explore how you as a leader can best support your team through the emotional times of the transformational process.